whole wheat is def not as tasty as honey wheat bread >.<
raisins are just bearable
and the occasional bite of chocolate is amazing XD

^^^ my life at work…food wise 

11am

feministblackboard: Reproductive coercion

daniellekiemel:

feministblackboard:

A few weeks ago my mom stapled pages of a story in one of her women’s magazines together and handed it to me. She gave it to me pretty much with the tag lines “for your feminist blog” and “something new to consider.” Indeed it was; she knows me well.

The story is titled “I was forced to be pregnant.” With a title like that, reading it was actually not on the top of my to read list. I thought it was about women not exercising their right to choice. I was very, very wrong on that one.

Have you ever heard of Reproductive coercion? It is a term that was quite recently coined by the advocates against domestic violence to describe a certain type of abuse some women face. It occurs when a man pressures their partner to have kids and/or impregnates them against their will. Reproductive coercion comes in three different types:
1. Emotional pressure that turns into verbal and physical abuse.
2. Sabotaging birth control
3. Marital rape
Over 75% of women 19-49 who reported once experiencing domestic violence also endured some type of reproductive control by men. It’s all about control and domination over a woman’s body.

The first story in the magazine is about a woman who got married around 36 years of age. After a few months of dating her boyfriend talked excitedly about having children. After he proposed he began calling her “The Babymaker.” She then confided with him that one of her fallopian tubes was blocked. He in return insisted she see a fertility doctor. She recounts, “I had finally met a great guy who was eager to start a family with me. What woman wouldn’t fall for that?” Soon after her honeymoon he persisted on in an obsessive manner, but his efforts had to be temporarily halted as she had to get emergency back surgery. Alas, 6 months into recovery he was back to pressuring her again. She was in much pain at the time due to her back, but she agreed to In Vitro Fertilization. She then became pregnant, but soon miscarried. In response, her husband grabbed her by the neck, choking her. He apologized, blaming his outburst on his grief and had her sign up for another round of IVF. And then a third round. She tried to put him off with the excuse that she needed to weigh more before she could take treatments, her husband forced her to get on the scale often and filled the fridge with fattening foods. “It hurt that all I was good for was getting pregnant.” She recounts. At the end, he screamed at her, threatening to replace her with a maid if she couldn’t get pregnant and she told him she no longer wanted to have his child. He destroyed bedroom furniture, pushed her down the stairs and threatened her with a gun. She fled to a domestic violence shelter.

Click the link and read the full post.

I always feel so fortunate to have the friends and family that I do, the ones that would beat the crap out of anyone who hurt/tried to hurt me. Not saying that violence is the answer to violence or anything though.

(Source: feminist-blackboard)

Via a magical existence

3pm

Day 10. What’s one thing you’ve lost and wonder where it is now?

I’ve lost a friend (I mean it as plural actually), and I wonder how they are and what they’re up to.

12am

Nightcore - Nobody Wants to Try

♥ Nightcore :)

12am

Day 9. What are three things you would be willing to try at least once?

honestly before last weekend hiking would have been one of the three on these list XD but seeing as I finally did that I suppose I’ll move on…

1. Traveling - this one may seem weird… but for the most part I’ve convinced myself that I don’t like to travel without trying it yet.  I’ve mentioned that my new dream schools are MIT, CalTech, and UC Berkeley, and of course they mention ‘you know you’ll have to travel to go there.’  well duhhhh, I think I’ve realized that I’ll have to travel to go to any of those places.  But over the past few months I’ve come to accept the fact that I need to travel to achieve these new goals I’m making. and by traveling I don’t just mean going to these schools, they’re just examples of how I’ve previously felt about ‘traveling’, I think I’m alright now with the idea of going overseas…or at least I’m alright with trying it at least once.

2. Working on a farm for a day-  haha this one is weird too, but I think it’s so interesting.  I guess cuz one of my friends has chickens and goats that I wonder what it’s like to care for farm animals for a day.  It seems like it’s hard work, it’d be an interesting experience.

3. Skydiving - I feel like this one is on everyone’s list.  Anyways, my brother did it, he used to be scared of heights, so I can do it to XD

9pm

collegehumor:

The most unsexy unsettling legitimately confusing thing you’ll see today.

that was…very confusing… I felt like I was watching awkward high school kids at their prom… maybe more like middle school kids trying to dance XD

Via CollegeHumor Staff Blog

8pm

Preaching to the Choir

ugh >.< talk about reasons I avoid calling home -.- lecturing me about exposing too much when i go swimming??? i wear a freaking tankini and swimming skorts X_X thats more coverage than a one-piece already! and you’re thinking that i’m going to take pictures and post them on fb that i’m going to ‘regret later’?? do you seriously take me for some wild party girl or something? and i don’t even know what type of pictures you’re referring to, cuz you said no when i asked ‘what?? like me making out with someone?!’  like for real, i’m the least of the siblings that would need a lecture about this stuff -.- but i guess i’m the only one unfortunate enough to bother calling home … bleh…

8pm

Goals

so i figured I should write these down somewhere before I forget

-MIT Summer Research Program (MSRP): application starts being accepted in December

-Co-op

7pm